The writer of Hebrews (whom I believe is the Apostle Paul), wrote “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous” (Heb. 13:4). Yet, Christianity Today recently ran an article, saying that young Christians commonly ignore any prohibitive sentiments against premarital sex. It’s not hard to see why that would be true. First, our culture has been desensitized to the seriousness of sexual relations by a glut of risqué advertising and entertainment. Some Christians admit watching anything without self-censorship, no matter how lurid. The libido is bound to be ignited in that kind of hot zone. Second, today’s relationships typically meander for long periods of time with no destination in sight. “Unofficial” romances can carry on for years. With tons of cuddling going on during that time, was there any question what was eventually going to happen? So, it doesn’t surprise me when I get phone calls like the one I got from a Christian guy who wanted to know if it was okay to have sex with his girlfriend. I’m still not sure why he called me because there was only one answer that he was willing to hear. When I gave him the “wrong” one, he started maneuvering. He told me that he and the girl really loved each other and that they were going to get married (they eventually didn’t). According to the verse I started with in this post, what makes the “bed” honorable is not love; it’s marriage. Neither is it the intent of marriage that makes the bed honorable. It’s marriage. Unfortunately the guy who called me moved on to other beds, preferring to maneuver around rather than to confront his weakness. My guess is that he told himself that God hadn’t judged him and that meant nothing was going to happen. Yet sometimes judgment doesn’t mean AIDS or unwanted pregnancies or STD’s. Sometimes it means sex addictions, shallow relationships, and a fellowship with the Lord that has been damaged due to having a corrupt conscience. It might just mean stunted spiritual growth. You can outmaneuver Paul if you want, or even Jesus, but does anybody really escape the consequences?